In order to identify child sexual predators, our sex abuse lawyers in Miami, Florida, recommend watching for red flags such as gifts, special attention, or intimate communication via phone or text message.
MR. HERMAN: Right now there are child molesters looking to get access to our children. They're everywhere. Anywhere there's a child: they're in our schools, they're in the sports leagues, they're in the churches, they're in the temples--anywhere there's kids there are predators looking to get access to kids. And it's a compulsion for them. So they're not going to stop. They're looking for that opportunity.
And for parents we need to be aware of this. The more we're aware the more we can do to protect our kids. The first thing is to understand, you know, who is this predator? The answer is it's probably somebody you know, may even trust. It's not typically the stranger in the park.
You know, we grew up hearing "stranger danger". Well stranger danger is dangerous to me because that tells a child is that if they're not a stranger, well, they're okay. That's not really what happens. The truth is is that most kids are sexually abused by somebody that they know. And this predator is somebody who's probably going to try to gain the trust of the family. They may be a coach, they may be a teacher, they may be a religious leader. They're going to use that position to seem trustworthy and to groom the family and then groom the child. You might see them giving special gifts to your child, paying special attention to your child, things like that.
And so what do you look for as an adult, as a parent? The answer is you look for red flags. Be aware. Know who is interacting with your child. If there's a man who's in your child's life you need to know what the interaction is between that man and your child. Did that man give your child a gift? Is he giving him or her special attention? Does he ever contact your child through electronics: email, phone, texting--any way? Do they want to spend time alone with your child? These are all red flags that as a parent you have to look out for.